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Building Self Confidence – Action for Happiness

Hi

I was listening to breakfast TV yesterday morning on the BBC and heard about a new charity called Action for Happiness.

Why would there be the need for such a charity? Well, it seems that the richer our society gets the unhappier we are!

That’s weird isn’t it? Surely we’ve got more to be happy about than ever – even with the recession on we still have a great material standard of living compared to millions of people in the world. We enjoy greater physical safety and there are more safety nets if our personal world falls apart than in many countries

Part of the BBC report showed various members of the public giving their ideas about what would make them happy. Their answers included: a bath, a fulfiling career, that it would suddenly be Friday afternoon and time to go home from work.

It struck me that all of their answers were around ‘I’ll be happy when…’ None of them were about how they could be happy in the moment. We can all relate to that. I know I feel more upbeat when the sun shines.

The trouble with the kind of happiness that depends on certain events taking place is - what if they don’t? Are we dooming ourselves to be unhappy for no good reason?

Here are some great antidotes to unhappiness my clients find really helpful and that you can start to use immediately:

  • Build your confidence so that you can bounce back quickly after a setback.
  • Learn how to create win-win discussions so that even if someone wants something different from you, or has a different opinion, you don’t have to get defensive and argue with friends, family, colleagues or clients.
  • Practise speeding up the time it takes for you to turn your attention away from a problem and towards a solution.
  • Keep a gratitude diary – find reasons to be happy and write down all the small and big things you are grateful for. If you can’t be reasonably happy, try being unreasonably happy! 🙂
  • Express gratitude – let your family, friends, clients and colleagues know what you appreciate about them. Include yourself – you need to be your own best friend 🙂
  • Have a motivating reason to live. My motivating purpose is to help people create even more abundance in their lives – an abundance of the good things in life such as joy, confidence, health, fulfiling relationships, love, rewarding careers and businesses and wealth. When I remember it, I feel very happy and it keeps me going even when I experience setbacks.
  • Choose to spend your time with positive and supportive people. For instance, weed out any negative ‘friends’ and see a life or business coach regularly to help you get perspective, clear sense of purpose, master your emotions and clear the way to overcoming challenges and achieving your goals faster.

All these things are within your power and give you control over your life and level of happiness.

Create a happy day! 🙂

Warm wishes

Madeleine

PS: I like to reward people who take action to create more happiness in their lives. So, I’m offering you a free Discovery Session where we can explore where you are now in your life, where you’d like to be and how you can get there.

Email Madeleine at mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk or phone Cambridge 01223 964516 to book your phone, Skype or face-to-face session.

PPS: You can download a free confidence mini-course from http://www.buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

"Madeleine is an exceptional coach. Over the years I've received coaching from some of the biggest names in NLP, business and personal development. In my estimation she's up there with the big boys.

Very quickly she expanded my thinking way beyond the limits I had set for myself and not only gave me practical step-by-step advice that moved me forward in my career, my business, my personal relationships and my personal development. She also revealed to me the things I was doing in my head that were preventing me from enjoying the success I'd already achieved.

In a very short time, and as a direct result of Madeleine's coaching:

- My confidence soared

- I secured an interview for the job of my dreams

- I got really clear on a part-time business I wanted to build

On top of all this, the process, wisdom and expertise she brought to the coaching allowed me to make changes in myself that deepened my relationship with my girlfriend, improved my interpersonal skills with colleagues at work and most important of all, given me an ongoing realisation that this whole journey is exciting and enjoyable.

Ben Green, Marketing Manager

The Confidence Coach

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18Sep/100

Confidence Coaching Breakthrough Sessions

Confidence Building Sessions for Professionals, Managers and Business Owners

½ day Discovery Session

We’ll find out life-changing answers to these key questions:

  • What are your strengths?
  • Where are you now? Where do you want to be?
  • What are the hidden forces holding you back from getting what you want in life?
  • What’s your individual blue print for success?

You’ll go away with:

  • A map for how you think and how that influences your behaviour and the results you get in  positive and negative ways
  • A personality profile showing you:
    •  your personal, work and leadership strengths,
    • what holds you back in those areas how others see you –
    • what motivates you in work
    • An inventory of your top skills
    • A map for increasing your confidence on 7 levels

We’ll use all this information to help you get rid of the road blocks in your way, improve your work and personal relationships and development your career/business plan and strengthen your confidence.

 Investment: £597

For more information, email madeleine at mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

or call 01223 426392

½ Day Breakthrough Session

This is where:

  • We clear your mental and emotional decks and take out the rubbish, the:
    • difficult things that have happened to you in the past,
    • negative things you say to yourself
    • negative influence of others
    • bad habits such as procrastination
    • negative feelings like fear, anger, guilt, sadness and hurt
    • I’ll show you little-known short cuts to creating natural confidence.

Then you can dump the gremlins of the past and enjoy the present and the future

 Investment: £697

For more information, email madeleine at mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

or call 01223 426392

½ Day Strategy Session-

We put together action plans to create the wealth, work and personal life you really want.

  • Get a clear idea of the big and small things you want to achieve in your relationships, career, business, health, wealth, fun and contribution in life.
  • Prioritise your goals
  • Create a motivating personal and career/business development plan to achieve them

 Investment: £597

For more information, email madeleine at mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

or call 01223 426392

18Sep/100

Confidence Building VIP Coaching and Training Programme

“Managers, Professionals and Business Owners…

Are You Frustrated by Your Lack of Confidence? 

Then this VIP ‘360 Days to Total Confidence Programme’ is for You”

 93% of people lack confidence in some area of their life, at some point in their life.

Many high achievers have told me they secretly fear that someday people are going to find out they’re not that talented.

Often confidence deserts you when you need it most – when it’s time to get out of your comfort zone and make your next leap.

“Are more confident people than you enjoying better relationships, more influence, bigger opportunities, more money and more fun?”

 Do you want to stop feeling… 

  • You’re stuck because the next step might be a mistake
  • You’re holding yourself back from more personal, career and financial success
  • Your people skills socially, in meetings and presentations let you down
  • the business world is robbing your fulfilment, individuality and freedom
  • dealing with difficult personal and work relationships is stealing your time and energy
  • you’re succeeding at work but losing in life – you have no time to have fun and your personal relationships are suffering
  • you’ve tried making changes but you fall back into old negative habits
  • you’re in an uncomfortable comfort zone
  • you’re surrounded by negative or critical people
  • you’ve lost your sense of direction and life seems to be driving you
  • You’re battling with the recession and you might lose
  • More confident people than you are enjoying better relationships ,more influence, bigger opportunities, more money and more fun 

By Now, You’re Probably Wondering What Keeps You in the

Low-Confidence Trap?

You can’t logic yourself out of a lack of confidence

Have you notice how low-confidence seems so illogical? It doesn’t matter how often you tell yourself not to worry, ‘I’ve prepared’, ‘I’ve done this before and so it will be okay’, ‘What’s the worst thing that can happen – I won’t die if it goes wrong!’ ‘They can only say, No’.

 The doubtful, exhausting, irritating voice inside your head asks, “What if it goes wrong?” “What if I make a mistake?” “What will they think of me?” “What if I haven’t prepared enough?” “What if I say the wrong thing?”

 Then when you give in to feeling nervous and stressed you don’t say what you think and you miss the opportunity to act. Afterwards you feel frustrated and stupid for feeling nervous, especially when someone else has grabbed the rewards for acting more courageously – they’ve got the partner, the promotion, the credibility, the experience, the wealth.

 You wonder, “Why can’t I do a simple thing like manage my nerves?”

 Why does that happen over and over again? Because…

 It’s difficult to feel more confident when you haven’t been shown HOW.

 You were taught how to manage your emotions by parents, teachers and others who didn’t have a clue how to do that properly. Nor did their parents and teachers…

 Also,

Things which really hold us back are invisible to us.

Or rather, they leave clues that we need to learn to read before we can overcome them. For instance stress is often really a lack of confidence.

 You might be wondering whether it’s possible to change if you’ve been the same way most of your life.

 Read on to hear about my personal experience…

“So, How Can You Escape the Low-Confidence Trap?”

These days I run a successful business doing what I love, I feel confident taking on new challenges and speaking in public. I enjoy my relationships with my husband, family and friends.

 But it wasn’t always that way. There was a time in my life when I was stuck in a relationship rut and I didn’t have the courage to change it. I was in a job where my senior manager was holding me back but I didn’t challenge him. I was underpaid for what I contributed but I didn’t have the confidence to ask for more. I was shy with new people and easily intimidated by more assertive and aggressive ones. Sometimes I would hide my lack of confidence by being aloof, angry or defensive.

 Then I discovered personal development books and audio programmes. I started to do more adventurous things. I went to work abroad, learned to SCUBA dive (and teach others to dive too, in my spare time), made new friends from all over the world and met my husband.

 The only trouble was, I did all those things and still lacked confidence. I felt the fear and did those things anyway. My life had got more interesting but the anxiety was still there.

 Then I tried those intensive 3-7 day workshops where highly motivational speakers took 100s or 1000s of people on emotional roller coaster journeys of self discovery. I definitely experienced some break-throughs and had great fun. But I came down to earth with a bump once I got back to my own life and the supportive and energised atmosphere had gone.

 I wondered, ‘How can I get out of the low-confidence trap once and for all?’ 

 I’ve been on a long quest to discover the real secrets of natural confidence. I’ve easily invested more than £67K in the last 15 years to learn and experience more and more of these personal, business and professional development tools that I’ve used to help me make big changes in my life and the lives of my 893 clients.

 I’ve been thinking…

 Many clients expect coaching programmes to be 6-12 sessions long. But the clients who experience greater benefits stay longer. There’s a limit to what I can help you achieve in just 6-12 hours especially in these difficult times.

You tend to fall back into old, stressful ways of coping when there’s lots of bad news, people are feeling worried, you’re fighting fires at work and family life is very demanding.

 These days many successful coaches are reducing the time they spend on labour intensive 1-2-1 coaching and running group coaching instead. My business coach has been telling me to go that way too. But I know 1-2-1 is a better way for my clients.

 I want to offer a programme for professionals, managers and business owners, like you, who really want to stop short-changing yourself, get out of the ‘low-confidence’ trap and achieve your potential… and are willing to invest in yourself to do it.

 Then I asked myself, ‘What would be a complete package that would help you create your best years forever?’

“What Would Your Life Look, Sound and Feel Like if You Knew How to Create Your Best Years…Forever?”

 What if you could:

  • Feel comfortable in your own skin
  • Love, lead and live courageously
  • Enjoy career and business success on your own terms
  • Create the solutions others wish they’d thought of
  • Deal with difficult work and personal challenges confidently and skilfully
  • Get the financial rewards and recognition you deserve
  • Wake up feeling full of energy and vitality?

“With the Recession it has never been more important to give yourself the emotional, mental and skill advantage that this coaching programme can give you.”

 In these challenging times you need something special.

Here’s what I came up with…

The 360 Days to Total Confidence Programme

½ day Discovery Session – worth £597

We’ll find out life-changing answers to these key questions:

  • What are your strengths?
  • Where are you now? Where do you want to be?
  • What are the hidden forces holding you back from getting what you want in life?
  • What’s your individual blue print for success?

You’ll go away with:

  • A map for how you think and how that influences your behaviour and the results you get in  positive and negative ways
  • A personality profile showing you:
    •  your personal, work and leadership strengths,
    • what holds you back in those areas how others see you –
    • what motivates you in work
  • An inventory of your top skills
  • A map for increasing your confidence on 7 levels

We’ll use all this information to help you get rid of the road blocks in your way, improve your work and personal relationships and development your career/business plan and strengthen your confidence.

 ½ Day Breakthrough Session – worth £697

This is where:

  • We clear your mental and emotional decks and take out the rubbish, the:
    • difficult things that have happened to you in the past,
    • negative things you say to yourself
    • negative influence of others
    • bad habits such as procrastination
    • negative feelings like fear, anger, guilt, sadness and hurt
  • I’ll show you little-known short cuts to creating natural confidence.

Then you can dump the gremlins of the past and enjoy the present and the future

 ½ Day Strategy Session- worth £597

We put together action plans to create the wealth, work and personal life you really want.

  • Get a clear idea of the big and small things you want to achieve in your relationships, career, business, health, wealth, fun and contribution in life.
  • Prioritise your goals
  • Create a motivating personal and career/business development plan to achieve them

 12 Skill Building Sessions – worth £1197

Gain the Skills and Knowledge You Need to Get the Results You Want

Part of gaining confidence is about knowing what action to take in challenging situations. So, included in the programme are monthly webinars (or teleseminars) covering proven, effective and often little known tools and techniques to improve your key life skills. These practical skills will make your goals easier to achieve and you’ll be able to use them straightaway.

 When you master these skills you master your life.

And …You become invaluable to your organisation, family and friends. These are the kind of skills that help you recession-proof your business or career.

Here are the skills and some of the tools and tips you’ll discover:

  • Managing Your Self:
  1. Time management – how to get more done in less time, overcome procrastination, find out why hard work and positive thinking are not enough
  2. Decision making – how to make difficult decisions
  3. Presentation skills – discover how to communicate so others will listen, enhance your image and reputation, learn the secrets of the master public speakers
  4. Creative thinking – how to come up with ideas others wish they had thought of, discover how to be smarter than you think
  5. Wealth Mastery – discover why you’re not rich, gain the mindset that leads to wealth, discover key wealth creating strategies
  6. Health Mastery – how to strengthen your immune system, tools for total well-being and vitality, have the body you want

Managing Your Relationships with Others:

  1. Joint problem solving tools – empower your team and your family to solve problems together, instead of avoiding them or arguing about them
  2. Understanding the opposite sex – discover what you need to know to get the best out of your work and personal relationships
  3. Influencing – how to win cooperation, win people over to your ideas, how to be respected as a leader in your family, community and at work even if you don’t have an official title
  4.  Win-win negotiation skills – how to get the best deal every time
  5.  Selling skills – how to sell your ideas, skills, services and products without appearing to be selling,
  6. Dealing with difficult conversations – discover how to handle people’s control games and negative comments, how to give difficult feedback and news that’s received well.

 Then, I thought you need some elements designed to make the changes ‘stick’ so it becomes natural for you to feel and act confidently. These elements will provide the support, clarity and focus you need to keep taking action when life tries to pull you in different directions and draws you into fire fighting:

  • 4 hours of emergency 1-2-1 coaching to use when needed – worth £597

For instance you can use it for intensive skills training or for a big challenge/project that’s coming up.

  • 24 Momentum Sessions – worth £1797

-       Fortnightly, 30-minute coaching sessions, face-to-face, over the phone or Skype, to help you avoid procrastinating and getting distracted.

You’ll stay Motivated, Focussed and on Target to create the future you really want.

We’ll complete a goal sheet for each session so that you know what you need to do in the coming fortnight.

  • Ongoing email support – worth £698

This is for those times when you have a quick question you want to ask between sessions. Perhaps something unexpected has come up and you want some quick tips or encouraging words or honest helpful feedback.

  • 12 CD recordings, one for each of the monthly webinars – worth £567

So that you can quickly gain mastery while you listen in your car or on your lap top at times that fit into your busy life.

  • Daily motivational quotes delivered to your inbox via email with action points  - worth £397

  • 25% Discounts off my public workshops

 

That’s a total value is £6447

It’s worth even more when you think that the quality of your life is the quality of your emotions and of your relationships with your self and others.

Now, if that made you gulp, it was meant to. I’m looking for people who are serious about investing in their quality of life and who value high quality material.

What’s the Investment I’m Actually Asking of You?

I’m willing to reward you for you commitment,  meet you part of the way and offer you the programme at:

  • £4997

AND That's Not All...

You don't even have to pay all at once!

If you sign up today, you can also opt to pay for your Total Confidence Programme in easy monthly installments – when you promise to be totally committed to the process. You can choose:

  • 6 x monthly installments of £897 or
  • 10 x monthly installments of £547

 N.B. This offer only lasts until the end of the month

 Now, because I want to give you my quality time and energy there are only 24 places on the programme this coming year.

“This Programme isn’t for Everyone” 

This Total Confidence Programme isn’t for everyone. To check if you’re ready, I’ve created an application questionnaire for you to complete.  Just by completing it you’ll get some valuable insights. Together, we’ll look at your answers and decide if you want Total Confidence now or whether you postpone Total Confidence for some time in the future.

Email mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk to get a questionnaire sent to you. Or type your answers to the questions at the bottom of this page in a Word document and email them to: mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

It’s safe to apply because your questionnaire doesn’t commit you to joining the programme

“The Quality of  Your Life is the Quality of  Your Emotions and Your Relationships” 

So do you want to continue to see people with more confidence than you enjoying better relationships, more influence, bigger opportunities, more money and more fun?

Or do YOU want to have the power to get rid of self-doubt, negativity and stress?

In this VIP Total Confidence Programme you are getting the power of £67,000 worth of research, 15 years of experience and 893 more confident clients to help you create all the personal, financial and career success you want.

Guarantee

When you promise to be committed, I am totally cpnfident I can make you confident with this programme. This is my passion and I take what I do and the results I get very seriously. So if you don’t get the confidence and skill you need to achieve your goals, then I will give you a full no questions asked refund. I wouldn't work any other way.

 I’m looking forward to working with you

To your confidence

Warm wishes

Madeleine

P.S. Remember: If you sign up today, you can also opt to pay for your Total Confidence Programme in easy monthly installments

  • 6 x monthly installments of £897 or
  • 10 x monthly installments of £547

N.B. This offer only lasts until the end of the month

There are only 24 places on the programme this year.

 Email mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk to get a questionnaire sent to you. Or type your answers to the questions at the bottom of this page in a Word document and email them to: mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

It’s safe to apply because your questionnaire doesn’t commit you to joining the programme.

P.P.S: Still unsure? Just take a quick look at what my clients say.

"Madeleine is an exceptional coach. Very quickly she expanded my thinking way beyond the limits I had set for myself and not only gave me practical step-by-step advice that moved me forward in my career, my business and my personal development. She also revealed to me the things I was doing in my head that were preventing me from enjoying the success I'd already achieved. In a very short time, and as a direct result of Madeleine's coaching

- My confidence soared

- I secured an interview for the job of my dreams

- I got really clear on a part-time business I wanted to build

On top of all this, the process, wisdom and expertise she brought to the coaching allowed me to make changes in myself that deepened my relationship with my girlfriend, improved my interpersonal skills with colleagues at work and most important of all, given me an ongoing realisation that this whole journey is exciting and enjoyable.”

Ben Green, Marketing Manager

 

'I wanted to leave my job as I felt my career was going nowhere. Madeleine helped me take back control. First we clarified what I really wanted to do. Then, we worked on strategies to build confidence, unlock my creativity and develop leadership and communication skills. Now I've got a great new job and I honestly believe I wouldn't have done it half so well without my Life Coach.'

Joan Herbert, PhD, Business Development Manager, Cambridge

 “I’ve experienced so many benefits from Madeleine’s coaching. I now have more confidence and skill to run my business in ways that help me have more fun, more profit and more time. Rather than my business driving me, I feel more in control.

Some of the many results of our coaching sessions are that I’ve:

  • Raised my prices and improved the way I market, sell and tender my services
  • Discovered more about what’s important to me and how to take my business in a direction that will give me the lifestyle I want
  • Developed ways of dealing with difficult people, work and personal situations that have stopped them being a drain on me

Time spent with Madeleine energises me for the rest of the week. The coaching sessions help me to deal with challenges more creatively and faster. So, I spend more time on what I really care about - my family, friends and clients.”

Diane Wright, Anglia Wright Advice, Health and Safety Consultancy

 “I have enjoyed working with Madeleine – she has provided focus, ideas, structure and achievable action plans to help with my business progression.
Going from corporate life to running my own business was difficult. Helping me to overcome the obstacles blocking my thought processes, meant I achieved significant progress in a relatively short period of time, rather than procrastinating and getting bogged down with trivia.
Madeleine has provided a number of great ideas to enhance my business plan, drawing on her knowledge and experience. I have also learnt some valuable tips to enhance my business tool kit through the NLP techniques she uses.
One of the most powerful lessons learnt, is how to deal with difficult people – an invaluable seminar run by Madeleine. This was thought provoking, structured and fun!
Working with Madeleine will enhance your business and give you more confidence to deal with life!”

Aegean Thomson, Business Owner and Events Coordinator, Event Wishes

 “Working with Madeleine has given me so much more than I could ever have imagined when I committed to the coaching process. She guides, mentors, encourages, motivates, teaches and inspires. She has shown me new ways to strengthen my marketing messages and come up with countless new ideas to develop my business. Looking at what I was doing through someone else’s eyes and with her creative expertise, has put a different spin and focus on where I expend my energies. I am reaping tremendous benefits. I have more clarity, focus and direction. Her ideas library knows no bounds. Madeleine imparts all this with great wisdom, coupled with humour; it’s an enjoyable process and quite addictive!”

Isobel Read, Business Owner

 “Hi Madeleine,

Just wanted to say a big THANK YOU for sharing your sales conversation with me - I made my first sale today at £799!    

Looking forward to our call tomorrow.”

Jane

Jane Bennett

www.essential-woman.com

P.P.P.S. Email mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk to get a questionnaire sent to you. Or type your answers to the questions at the bottom of this page in a Word document and email them to: mm@buildingselfconfidence.co.uk

It’s safe to apply because your questionnaire doesn’t commit you to joining the programme

 Total Confidence Programme Application Questionnaire

1.    What’s your primary motivation in applying for this programme?

  • Build my business
  • Create more career success
  • Enjoy more fulfiling personal relationships
  • other

2.     How much personal investment training have you invested in? Select one

  • None
  • I’ve read some books and listened to CDs
  • I’ve been on a short workshop
  • I’ve been on many courses

3.      Can I count on you to be 100% present -- positive, attentive, with a can-do attitude and willingness to learn - if you are selected to attend?

4.      YOUR PERSONAL VISION: Please use the space below to tell me how your life will change if you’re accepted on this programme: 200 words or less

  • What are your financial goals for the next 5 years?
  • What life style would you like?
  • What are your personal goals?
  • What will you achieve in your business or career?
  • What treats (gadgets, holidays, experiences etc.) will you buy yourself?
  • How will you give back to your family and community?

5.     If there was only one place left on the Total Confidence Programme, why should you be chosen? 

6.    When you have reached your goals with Total Confidence, can I use your success story to inspire others? Yes/no

7.    What is the best time to contact you by telephone?

Date:

Time:

* Please note, if we can't reach you within 24 hrs of trying to contact you, we will move onto the next prospective candidate. So, it's in your best interest to provide us with as much contact information as possible!

  • First Name
  • Surname
  • Primary email address
  • Mobile
  • Postal address
1Apr/100

Quick Tip To Help You Build Self Esteem

It doesn't seem to matter how successful people are, everyone experiences crises of confidence or self-esteem at some time in their life and in some area of their lives.

Here's a quick and powerful tip to help you steadily build your self-esteem and confidence so that it's there for you when you need it most. Take a few moments every day to write down the things that went well that day because of what you said, did and thought. Now, I'm thinking about ordinary, everyday successes as well as the major ones.

How can this help? I hear some of you sceptics saying. Well, when we lack self-esteem or confidence it's often because our mind has got into the habbit of ignoring our successes and focussing on our mistakes. Or, it only counts major events. By keeping a success journal you train your mind to spot and appreciate your success and maintain a balanced view of yourself. You also build up lots of evidence to support your self-esteem that you can use to give yourself confidence in difficult times. Having these achievement fresh in your mind can help you when talking about yourself in appraisals, writing your CV, writing your internet dating entry and talking to friends, family, colleagues etc.

We tend to become our habits so give yourself  and the people whose lives you touch the gift of the habit of noticing your success. When you give yourself permission to shine, others feel it's okay for them to shine too.

Make your success journal even more colourful with photos of your successful moments. Choose a journal that's a pleasure to touch, such as moleskin.

Have fun! Warm wishes, Madeleine

Madeleine Morgan

   
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