Building Self Confidence Blog
10May/160

Best Ways to Manage Conflict: Confidence Tip 149

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingHave you ever heard that saying, attributed to American Indians, ‘Don’t judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their moccasins’?

Sound advice. I know my perspective on someone has changed once I’ve found out more about the pressures they’re under. It has saved me from getting into angry arguments or unnecessary conflict.

The other day, I read an alternative version:

Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

I had to chuckle because it so accurately reflects most people’s fears and lack of confidence about saying something that might provoke an argument or an angry reaction.

The trouble is that at least 3 negative things can happen if you don’t give someone feedback or don’t say something for fear of conflict:

  • Your frustration builds up and affects the relationship anyway. People have told me they’ve walked out of personal relationships and walked away from jobs or clients rather than have the conversation or risk open conflict. Often, that’s been a very costly move for both sides.
  • You never get to hear their side of things and gain a perspective that might ease your frustrations and resolve the conflict.
  • You don’t get the chance to resolve the conflict in a win-win way. That’s a lose-lose situation.

How to Stay Confident When You Need to Say Something that Might Lead to Conflict

So what would be a couple of handy rules of thumb for addressing issues that might lead to conflict, confidently?

  1. Discover the power of curiosity. Rather than get into a competition where both of you are fighting to be understood, find out more about what makes them do what they do or think the way they think, before you put forward your feelings, thoughts and arguments. You may be surprised at how this approach can reduce their defensiveness and give you important information that will help you make better judgements.
  2.  Find positive ways to put forward your thoughts. For example, rather than saying things like, ‘You’re always late’, ‘You’re inconsiderate’ or ‘You make me feel….’, ask, ‘What’s a time we can both get there on time?’

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWhat’s your next step to becoming more confident with conflict and feedback?

Check out some suggestions below.

Warm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

  1. Free Coaching Discovery Session

If we haven’t worked together before, I’d like to offer you a free, confidential ‘Best Year Yet’ Coaching Discovery Session.

I have 2 sessions left to give away, in May.

During that 45-60 minute session,

  • We’ll discuss where you are with your personal, career or business life.
  • We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success.
  • We’ll get clear about how you’d like your life to be.
  • Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making 2016 your best year yet.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me:madeleine@growu.co.uk and let me know what times and days fit for you.

Hurry to book your place because there are only 4 places and this offer is going to over 1600 people. 🙂


Quote of the Week about Dealing with Conflict
 

“Seek first to understand and then to be understood.’ Stephen Covey

Useful Links

"I've just read Madeleine's 'The Success Ladder' over the weekend. What a great easy and effective guide for any aspiring leader. It's very easy to read and most importantly the actions are very powerful which I've already started to implement. Thank you Madeleine and I look forward to sharing my success with you :-)" Adrian Peck

26Apr/160

7 Things to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up: Confidence Tip 148

 

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingI chuckled when I was sent this funny quote recently: “If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.”

Actually, I’ve tried skydiving and you get lots of practice jumping out of the plane where the parachute opens automatically, before you graduate to pulling the rip cord yourself.

But…the joke got me thinking.

Many people who are successful in their personal, career and business lives achieve great things because they keep trying when ordinary mortals would give up.

Did you know:

  1. For many years, Jay-Z couldn’t get signed to record labels? Now his records have earned him millions
  2. Bill Gates’s first business failed?
  3. Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was four years old?
  4. Richard Branson has dyslexia?
  5. Thomas Edison failed 1000 times to create a light bulb before he succeeded? He said, ‘I haven’t failed, I’ve just found a thousand ways that won’t work.’
  6. Kris Carr turned her cancer into an inspirational business?
  7. Steven Spielberg couldn’t get into the film school he wanted to attend?

So how did they gain the determination and confidence to persist on the dark nights of the soul when nothing was going to plan or certain people were telling them to quit or they just wanted to give up?

How to Stay Confident and Determined When You Want to Give Up

Here are 7 Tips to help you stay confident and determined when you want to give up:

  1. If people are resisting your ideas and plans, it’s possible it’s because you need to improve your communications skills. Add to your influencing, sales, marketing, presentation or negotiation skills so that you can help people be more open to your thoughts, views and schemes.
  2. Remind yourself that the darkest hour is often before the dawn – in other words, you might be just about to make a breakthrough. And…you’ve probably got a great track record of overcoming difficulties.
  1. Stay focussed on what you want to achieve – you tend to see most obstacles when you take your eye off your goal and switch to what’s in the way of it. Reviewing your written goals regularly and creating a vision poster are a couple of ways to keep your objectives in mind.
  1. Treat setbacks as opportunities to learn things that will help you succeed in future rather than using them to confirm that you’re a failure. When we were babies we had to fall over numerous times in our quest to learn to walk. All those falls were lessons about balance – necessary experiences for our eventual success.
  1. Have realistic expectations. Plants wouldn’t grow if farmers took them out of the ground every 5 minutes to check if the roots were growing. Give your actions time to reap their fruit and build momentum.
  1. Find ways to enjoy the journey or set goals where you can enjoy the journey. If your life is always about the end result or you set goals that involve lots of actions you hate, you create for yourself a life of hard grind.
  1. Be flexible about the way you get your goals achieved. Sometimes our habits of thinking and behaviour get in the way of our goals. Try new ways of thinking, new approaches and different actions. A life coach can help you make these changes faster and more easily.

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWhat’s your next step to becoming more persistent?

Warm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

 

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

1. Free Coaching Discovery Session

If we haven’t worked together before, I’d like to offer you a free, confidential ‘Best Year Yet’ Coaching Discovery Session

I have 4 sessions to give away, in May.

During that 45-60 minute session,

  • We’ll discuss where you are with your personal, career or business life.
  • We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success.
  • We’ll get clear about how you’d like your life to be.
  • Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making 2016 your best year yet.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me:madeleine@growu.co.uk

Hurry to book your place because there are only 4 places and this offer is going to over 1600 people. 🙂


2. Wednesday 18th May 2016 Business Growth Coaching Programme
 

I’ve teamed up with business consultant, Tim Gale, and we’ll be launching our 12th Business Growth Programme on Wednesday 18th May at 4.30 p.m. If you live in the Cambridgeshire or Suffolk area and you’re interested in growing your business this year, in the run up to the launch we’d like to offer you a free Double Your Profits Strategy Session. In this session, we’ll discuss where your business is now and where you’d like it to be in 1 to 5 years’ time. We’ll share with you how we think you could achieve the lifestyle and business you really want.

To apply for your free Double Your Profits Strategy session, click here.

 

Quote of the Week about Determination and Adversity

“All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.” Walt Disney

 

Useful Links

"I've just read Madeleine's 'The Success Ladder' over the weekend. What a great easy and effective guide for any aspiring leader. It's very easy to read and most importantly the actions are very powerful which I've already started to implement. Thank you Madeleine and I look forward to sharing my success with you :-)" Adrian Peck

 

 

 

 

14Apr/160

How Misunderstandings Happen and How to Deal With Them: Confidence Tip 147

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingA friend of mine sent me this conversation recently.

 Partner 1 texts partner 2 on a very cold winter’s morning: 

“Windows frozen, won't open.”

Partner 2 texts back:
“Gently pour some lukewarm water over it and gently tap edges with hammer.”

Partner 1 texts back 5 minutes later:
  

“Computer really messed up now!” 

How many times have you left the scene of a conversation totally confident that the other person knew exactly what you meant, only to find there’s been a complete misunderstanding? Aarghh!

The joke reminded me of two things that could be useful to you.

The first is a very challenging quote from David Gordon: “Just because you’re making a noise in my direction, don’t assume you’re communicating with me!”

I remember coaching a manager who was totally frustrated because he’d have long conversations with members of his team to arrive at decisions about what and how they were going to do things only to find that they didn’t do what he thought they were going to do, in the way he thought they’d agreed they would do it.

The second thing the joke reminded me about was how easy it is to fall into the trap of wading in with a solution before you know enough about the problem. The risk being that you might give an irrelevant solution, a solution that’s only partially correct or one that’s totally unwelcome because a solution wasn’t being asked for anyway!

So…what can you do to avoid these misunderstandings in the first place and how can you deal with these misunderstandings if they come up?

How to Avoid Misunderstandings

Here are 5 tips to help you avoid misunderstandings:

  • At the end of a conversation where decisions are being made or actions agreed, check you are both going away with the same understanding of what has been discussed. To avoid misunderstandings you might say: ‘Just so that I can check my communication, would you feed back to me what you understand that we’ve agreed?’ Or you could ask a summarising question that ensures there is mutual understanding such as, ‘So am I right in thinking we’ve agreed…?’
  • When someone seems to have a problem check whether they are looking for you to suggest solutions.
  • When someone asks your advice, ask more questions about the problem before you give any solutions
  • If you misunderstand what someone has said, take responsibility for jumping to conclusions.
  • If they misunderstand what you’ve said, take responsibility for miscommunicating and find another way to express yourself so that they do understand.

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWhat’s your next step to making your personal and working relationships work for you?

Warm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

1. Free Coaching Discovery Session

If we haven’t worked together before, I’d like to offer you a free, confidential ‘Best Year Yet’ Coaching Discovery Session

I have 4 sessions to give away in April.

During that 45-60 minute session,

  • We’ll discuss where you are with your personal, career or business life.
  • We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success.
  • We’ll get clear about how you’d like your life to be.
  • Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making 2016 your best year yet.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me: madeleine@growu.co.uk

Hurry to book your place because there are only 4 places and this offer is going to over 1600 people. 🙂

2. Wednesday 18th May 2016 Business Growth Coaching Programme 

I’ve teamed up with business consultant Tim Gale and we’ll be launching our 12th Business Growth Programme on Wednesday 18th May at 4.30pm. If you live in the Cambridgeshire or Suffolk area and you’re interested in growing your business this year, in the run up to the launch we’d like to offer you a free Double Your Profits Strategy Session. In this session, we’ll discuss where your business is now and where you’d like it to be in 1 to 5 years’ time. We’ll share with you how we think you could achieve the lifestyle and business you really want.

To apply for your free Double Your Profits Strategy session, click here.

 

Quote of the Week about Communication and Misunderstandings

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” George Bernard Shaw

 

Useful Links

"I've just read Madeleine's 'The Success Ladder' over the weekend. What a great easy and effective guide for any aspiring leader. It's very easy to read and most importantly the actions are very powerful which I've already started to implement. Thank you Madeleine and I look forward to sharing my success with you :-)" Adrian Peck

 

 

 

 

 

20Dec/150

How to Create Confident Relationships: Confidence Tip 142

How a Thoughtful Message Can Increase Your Self-Esteem and Help Others Develop Confidence

christmasRecently I came across a very moving, powerful and inspiring message. And…I thought that you would not only find it uplifting too but that you could also adapt this example to take all your working and personal relationships to a more exciting, fulfilling and joyous level.

Before I share that example with you, I’d like to wish you a very Happy Christmas. I hope that, in 2016, you’ll be able to create all the love, creativity, wealth, happiness, quality time, health, vitality and success that you wish for.

Thank you to my clients for giving me the excitement and joy of working with you.

I admire your courage in stepping up to overcome personal, career or business challenges rather than settling for your comfort zone. Your openness to learning new ways of thinking and taking action is awesome. I know that you have become even more inspirational role models to your colleagues, friends, family members and, for those of you who own businesses, your clients too. You’ve increased your ability to make a positive difference in the world.

Thank you to the readers of these Success Tips and especially those of you who have been kind enough to give me positive feedback and forward them to people you know.

I hope you’ll continue to let me help you make every year the best year of your life. If you have any ideas for future topics, please let me know.

Whether you’re religious or not, if there’s one message we can take from the Christmas story it’s that one person has the power to make a huge difference in the world.

I came across a really inspiring example of this recently.

It’s an encouraging, supportive, appreciative and think-outside-the-box letter written by the head teacher of Barrowford Primary School to her students. This is what it said:

barrow“Please find enclosed your end of KS2 test results. We are very proud of you as you demonstrated huge amounts of commitment and tried your very best during this tricky week.

However, we are concerned that these tests do not always assess all of what it is that make each of you special and unique. The people who create these tests and score them do not know each of you... the way your teachers do, the way I hope to, and certainly not the way your families do.

They do not know that many of you speak two languages. They do not know that you can play a musical instrument or that you can dance or paint a picture.

They do not know that your friends count on you to be there for them or that your laughter can brighten the dreariest day. They do not know that you write poetry or songs, play or participate in sports, wonder about the future, or that sometimes you take care of your little brother or sister after school.

They do not know that you have travelled to a really neat place or that you know how to tell a great story or that you really love spending time with special family members and friends.

They do not know that you can be trustworthy, kind or thoughtful, and that you try, every day, to be your very best... the scores you get will tell you something, but they will not tell you everything.

So enjoy your results and be very proud of these but remember there are many ways of being smart.”

Imagine what a positive effect that letter had on the self-esteem, level of motivation and the happiness of the children who received it.

How would your working and personal relationships with your partner, friends, family, team, clients or employees be transformed if you adapted this idea and created messages as thoughtful, encouraging and uplifting as this with their Christmas card or Christmas bonus?

What if you adapted this idea for other occasions such as birthdays, appraisals, the end of a project, the beginnings of work meetings and wedding anniversaries?

In fact, why wait for a special occasion? How about just being less generous with fault-finding and narrow measures of success and more generous with positive feedback and appreciation?

Let’s play an even bigger part in making the world a warmer, more loving, more appreciative, uplifting, more confident and abundant place to live and work. A place where we bring out the best in people so they don’t feel they have to resort to violence, anger and other negatives ways of getting noticed and getting their other needs met.

What’s your next step towards creating the personal life, business or career you really want?

Discover some more choices below.

‘Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UK

Warm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

Free Confidential Coaching Discovery Session

Is creating a more rewarding personal, career or business life a must for you next year?

Do you have some difficult challenges to face or decisions to make?

If your answer is yes check out these this free 1-2-1 coaching opportunity.

I have 4 more Free Coaching Discovery sessions to give away in January

During that 60 minute session, we’ll:

  • discuss what’s important to you, where you are with your life, career or business and any challenges you face
  • uncover hidden barriers to your success.
  • get clear about the life, career or business you’d like to enjoy

Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap.

You’ll go away feeling re-energised, excited and confident about making this year your best year yet.

We can meet at my coaching room in Cambridge (CB4 1LN) or over Skype or telephone.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me and tell me what days/times would suit youmadeleine@growu.co.uk 

Quotes of the Week

  • “Christmas is the spirit of giving without a thought of getting. It is happiness because we see joy in people. It is forgetting self and finding time for others. It is discarding the meaningless and stressing the true values.” Thomas S Monson

Useful Links

How to Achieve Your Goals: Confidence Tip 141 Category: Personal Development, Confidence, Time Management

Free Life Wheel to help you get clear about your challenges and goals

Free ebook – The Success Ladder: How to Succeed at Any Goal

"I've just read Madeleine's 'The Success Ladder' over the weekend. What a great easy and effective guide for any aspiring leader. It's very easy to read and most importantly the actions are very powerful which I've already started to implement. Thank you Madeleine and I look forward to sharing my success with you :-)" Adrian Peck

Free report on 21 ways to add 100k to your profits

7 Secrets About Personal and Business Success You Can Learn From SCUBA Diving

Madeleine Morgan, Life Coach, Career Coach, Leadership Coach and Business Coach

The Coaching Room, Chesterfield Road, Cambridge CB4 1LN

10Sep/150

How to Convince Them That YOU Can Do a Great Job: Confidence Tip 131

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingDo you find it frustrating when you know you can do a great job but your manager, an employer or a client just doesn’t trust you and… picks someone else to do it?

Whether you’re:
Applying for a new job
Selling to a prospect in a sales meeting or
Trying to impress your manager
There are many things you can do to persuade your employer, manager or prospect that you can do a great job…an even better job than others can do.

Here are 3 ways you can convince someone that you can do a good…or even a great job.
1. Be skilled at telling them how good you are at your job:
This starts as an ‘inside job’. In other words you have to be convinced that you do a great job. This may sound obvious but I hear people down playing their part in a success, ignoring their successes and rejecting praise often. Occasionally someone will see your talent shining through all your modesty but many people will take you at face value…the value you set on yourself. Get comfortable with self-promotion.
When you’re speaking about your successes, avoid lukewarm qualifiers such as ‘quite’, ‘maybe’ and ‘sort of’. Use definite language when describing what you can do.
Make sure your confidence in yourself is expressed through your confident body language and tone of voice.
Craft your Linkedin profile, website copy and CV so that it’s obvious what a great job you can do for people. Focus on the benefits of your work to them.
Tell success stories. They say that facts tell but… stories sell!

2. Get others to tell your prospective employer, manager or prospect how good you are at your job:
Make sure that you have glowing testimonials and recommendations on your website and Linkedin profile
If you’re applying for a job, make sure your referees know about your achievements so that they can endorse you knowledgeably
If you’re looking for promotion in your organisation, keep your manager up-to-date about your successes and learning so they can put you forward for opportunities and talk about you to influencers

3. Show how good you are at your job by demonstrating your great results:
For instance, if you’re an architect show a before and after picture of the house before and after an extension project you designed
If you’re a manager, create a presentation of how the department worked before and after you made changes and the resulting benefits to the company

If you’re a web developer going for a job, show the interview panel the before and after picture of a website you transformed and the statistics for increases in visitor numbers, enquiries and length of time people spend on the site compared to before you took on the project.

What’s your next step to becoming more successful in your personal, business and career?

Discover some choices below.

‘Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWarm wishes,

Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Special Offers and Events

Free Confidential Coaching Discovery Session

Is creating a more rewarding personal, career or business life a must for you in 2015?
Do you have some difficult challenges to face or decisions to make?

If your answer is yes check out these this free 1-2-1 coaching opportunity.

I have 3 Free Coaching Discovery sessions left to give away this month

During that 60 minute session, we’ll:
discuss where you are with your life, career or business and any challenges you face
uncover hidden barriers to your success.
get clear about the life, career or business you’d like to enjoy
Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making this year your best year yet.
We can meet at my coaching room in Cambridge (CB4 1LN) or over Skype or telephone.
If you would like to apply for a session, just email me and tell me what days/times would suit you: madeleine@growu.co.uk

Quotes of the Week about Proving You Can Do a Great Job

“I’ve said it before, and by gosh, I’ll say it again — don’t be afraid to toot your own horn.” Emlyn Chand
“Self-promotion is a leadership and political skill that is critical to master in order to navigate the realities of the workplace and position you for success.” Bonnie Marcus
“Without promotion something terrible happens – nothing!” P.T. Barnum
“I dread the promotion part of my job. It's agony, especially compared to the private, at-home joy of writing. But being a grown-up means doing every part of the larger task.” Chuck Palahniuk
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? … Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. … It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

Useful Links

Link to previous week’s blog entry: 20 Skills Successful Managers Have
Free Confidence ecourse
Free ebook – The Success Ladder: How to Succeed at Any Goal
Free report on 21 ways to add 100k to your profits
7 Secrets About Personal and Business Success You Can Learn From SCUBA Diving

2Sep/150

How to be Persuasive and Influential: 60 Seconds to Confidence Tip 130

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingHave you ever felt exasperated because you’ve failed to get someone to change their behaviour? Maybe you’ve even suffered a personal, career or business loss because of it.

If so, this week’s tip about persuasion will be really valuable for you.Being skilled at persuading other people to change their thinking and their habits is vital for your personal, career or business success and happiness.Whether you want to persuade:

  • Your clients to give you more notice of something they want you to do so that you’re not staying up until midnight to finish it and annoying your family
  • Your partner to do their share of the household chores
  • Your children to keep their rooms tidy and do their homework
  • Your team to look after your clients so superbly they stay loyal to your business
  • Your manager to keep you in the loop so that you can do a better job
the ‘don’t do this, do that approach’ rarely succeeds in the short term and never in the long-term. Unless you know how to change people’s hearts and minds they slip back into their ‘default’ behaviours very easily and quickly…even when they have good intentions to change their ways.What if next time you wanted to persuade someone to change their thinking and behaviour, they took up your idea or request enthusiastically? What if you could melt away their annoying resistance? What would your personal and work relationships be like if there was less conflict and more healthy cooperation?As it happens there are just 3 easy yet vital steps to take.
So think of a person and a behaviour you want to persuade them to change. Then prepare your conversation with these 3 steps.

  1. Give persuasive reasons why change is needed
Show them how the current situation won’t get them what they want. Paint a clear picture of the problems for them that will arise if they don’t change. I’m not talking about threatening people now. One way to make this less threatening while being impactful is to ask them curious and open questions that will help them come up with the problems that will arise if they don’t change. For instance, if you don’t do a great job for that client, what incentive will they have to come back and buy more from us?’
You’ll find it’s easier when someone convinces themselves of the need for change. Open questions allow that to happen.
  1. Create a persuasive vision of all the wonderful things that will happen if they do change
Once they’re persuaded there’s a need for change, you can help them see, hear and feel all the great benefits that will happen if they do something different. For example, ‘If our clients are really happy they’ll want to buy more. The business will be able to make more profits and you’ll get a bigger bonus at the end of the year.’ Make sure that the benefits you describe are ones they value. If you want more engagement from them, you could ask them open and curious questions about what they see as the benefits of changing.
  1. Agree the first actions steps towards achieving the new benefits
Discuss options for actions they/both of you need to start or stop taking.
Be flexible about how they might want to go about achieving new results.
What’s your next step to becoming more successful in your personal, business and career?Discover some choices below

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWarm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

Free Confidential Coaching Discovery Session

Is creating a more rewarding personal, career or business a must for you in 2015?
If your answer is yes check out these this 121 coaching opportunity.

I have 4 Free Coaching Discovery sessions left to give away this month.

During that 60 minute session, we’ll:

  • discuss where you are with your life, career or business and any challenges you face
  • uncover hidden barriers to your success.
  • get clear about the life, career or business you’d like to enjoy

Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making 2015 your best year yet.

We can meet at my coaching room in Cambridge (CB4 1LN) or over Skype or telephone.
If you would like to apply for a session, just email me and tell me what days/times would suit you: madeleine@growu.co.uk
 
Persuasion and Influence Quotes of the Week

  • “Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” Coco Chanel
  •  “The shepherd always tries to persuade the sheep that their interests and his own are the same.” Stendhal
  • “Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less. How do you gain influence from people? You invest in them. How do you invest in them? It starts with giving them time.” John C. Maxwell
  • Who are we, if not measured by our impact on others? That’s who we are! We’re not who we say we are, we’re not who we want to be – we are the sum of the influence and impact that we have, in our lives, on others.” Carl Sagan
  • “Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.” George Eliot
  • “It would be difficult to exaggerate the degree to which we are influenced by those we influence.” Eric Hoffer

    Useful Links 

"I've just read Madeleine's 'The Success Ladder' over the weekend. What a great easy and effective guide for any aspiring leader. It's very easy to read and most importantly the actions are very powerful which I've already started to implement. Thank you Madeleine and I look forward to sharing my success with you :-)" Adrian Peck

 

6Aug/150

How to be a Confident and Creative Problem Solver: 60 Seconds to Success Tip 126

Life Coaching and Confidence CoachingWow! Have you seen this innovative idea to solve a big problem ?

inhabitat.com/my-shower-curtain-is-a-green-warrior

Now, I’mone that definitely believes in keeping costs down and waste levels to a minimum, but this?

Aside from the fact it looks like it belongs in a modern art museum, it’s a bit far, isn’t it?

But then, it got me thinking.

It’s an innovative concept tackling a great, universal problem.

Does what you do in your business or line of work do that? Does mine?

How often do we, as business owners, managers and professionals, take time out of our busy lives to look at ways of making what we do better, more effective and even attention catching?

It doesn’t have to be some great mission that drives us.What if there was a trick we’re missing – an angle yet to be explored that, if we jumped off the hamster wheel of our lives anddiscovered it, we could use to create more successful businesses, careers or personal lives?

And, if that different way makes a difference that really matters, that would be cool, wouldn’t it?

As many of my clients know, I have a passion for creating curious questions that help people solve difficult challenges fasterQuestions that get our ‘neck-top-computer’ activated in useful ways.

So here’s one of those questions to ask yourself, your family, your clients, your team or your friends.

It can be asked as a brainstorming question to help prompt problem solving discussions and generate innovative solutions.

Or it can be asked as something that sinks into your unconscious mind where the cogs and filters churn and process until an inspiration emerges and gets sent to your conscious mind as a brainwave or a light bulb moment that comes to you when you least expect it – when you’re cleaning the car, gardening, cycling to work or emerging from sleep at 6 a.m. in the morning, perhaps.

Here’s the question:

How can I/you/we do what I/you/we do better, and in doing so, help others along the way?

Really interested to hear what your thoughts are on this,  maybe you’ve already gone through this thought-process?

Either way, it’s got me excited. Not aggressive spikes in the shower excited, but still, I feel awash with drive right now.

Talk soon.

Have a great week

What’s your next step to becoming more successful in your personal, business and career?

Discover some choices below.

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWarm wishes, Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Special Offers, Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Special Offers and Dates for Your Diary

Free Confidential Coaching Discovery Session

Is creating a more rewarding personal, career or business life a must for you in 2015?

Do you have some difficult challenges to face or decisions to make?

If your answer is yes check out this free 1-2-1 coaching opportunity.

I have 4 Free Coaching Discovery sessions left to give away this month

During that 60 minute session, we’ll:

  • discuss where you are with your life, career or business and any challenges you face
  • uncover hidden barriers to your success.
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Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and confident about making this year your best year yet.

We can meet at my coaching room in Cambridge (CB4 1LN) or over Skype or telephone.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me and tell me what days/times would suit you: madeleine@growu.co.uk

Creative Thinking, Problem Solving and Innovation Quotes of the Week

  • “Creativity is thinking up new things. Innovation is doing new things.” Theodore Levitt
  • “We cannot solve problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein
  • “Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” Albert Einstein
  • “Creativity is intelligence having fun.” Albert Einstein
  • “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live its lifebelieving it is stupid.” Albert Einstein

Useful Links

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