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How to React Confidently to Change and Reduce Stress: Confidence Tip 150

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWhether you love change or hate change, there’s often a period of time when you feel uncertain and uncomfortable with it. It takes a while to adapt to change, to see the opportunities in it and to see the positive aspects of it.

I’ve worked a lot with business owners and professionals and managers working in businesses over the last 16 years. It seems like the pace of change in their lives is speeding up.

Sometimes that need to change is forced on them by changes outside their control. For example, many of my professional and manager clients have gone through several rounds of redundancies in the companies they work for. Their companies have had to change how people are managed or bring in new systems and software too. These changes have all brought unwelcome uncertainty. They’ve needed to learn new skills and have different mind-sets to survive and thrive through change.

At other times the need for change is coming from inside them. The things they used to do, want and be are no longer making them happy.

How to Stay Confident When You Need to Change or When Change is Happening Around You

So, if the only certainty we really have is that things will change, how can we grow and change confidently?

I realised the other day that there is something we can learn from lobsters!

Yep, lobsters 🙂

I was watching a video by Dr Abraham Twerski where he described how lobsters grow.

A lobster is a soft bodied animal that lives in a rigid shell. The shell can’t expand. So how does the lobster grow?

Well, as it grows, the shell becomes uncomfortable and constricting. When the lobster feels this stress it knows it’s time to change its shell. Then it finds a safe place where it can cast off its shell without getting eaten by predators and it grows a new one. A young lobster will go through the process 5-6 times in a season whereas the adult lobster will only change their shell 1-2 times.

Notice that the trigger is that the lobster feels stress and discomfort. Dr Twerski pointed out that if lobsters had doctors they’d never grow because every time they got stressed they would be given a drug to supress or over-ride the feelings.

Interesting point.

So, how can you live, like a lobster, with change?

Your mission to meet change with confidence, if you choose to accept:

  1. Accept change as a natural process in life.
  2. Seek out, or create, a supportive environment for change – such as life coaching or business coaching sessions.
  3. Look forward to the new opportunities that change can bring.

Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UKWhat’s your next step to becoming more confident with change?

Check out some suggestions below.

Warm wishes, Madeleine

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Quote of the Week about Dealing with Change 

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer

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