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How to Create Confident Relationships: Confidence Tip 142

How a Thoughtful Message Can Increase Your Self-Esteem and Help Others Develop Confidence

christmasRecently I came across a very moving, powerful and inspiring message. And…I thought that you would not only find it uplifting too but that you could also adapt this example to take all your working and personal relationships to a more exciting, fulfilling and joyous level.

Before I share that example with you, I’d like to wish you a very Happy Christmas. I hope that, in 2016, you’ll be able to create all the love, creativity, wealth, happiness, quality time, health, vitality and success that you wish for.

Thank you to my clients for giving me the excitement and joy of working with you.

I admire your courage in stepping up to overcome personal, career or business challenges rather than settling for your comfort zone. Your openness to learning new ways of thinking and taking action is awesome. I know that you have become even more inspirational role models to your colleagues, friends, family members and, for those of you who own businesses, your clients too. You’ve increased your ability to make a positive difference in the world.

Thank you to the readers of these Success Tips and especially those of you who have been kind enough to give me positive feedback and forward them to people you know.

I hope you’ll continue to let me help you make every year the best year of your life. If you have any ideas for future topics, please let me know.

Whether you’re religious or not, if there’s one message we can take from the Christmas story it’s that one person has the power to make a huge difference in the world.

I came across a really inspiring example of this recently.

It’s an encouraging, supportive, appreciative and think-outside-the-box letter written by the head teacher of Barrowford Primary School to her students. This is what it said:

barrow“Please find enclosed your end of KS2 test results. We are very proud of you as you demonstrated huge amounts of commitment and tried your very best during this tricky week.

However, we are concerned that these tests do not always assess all of what it is that make each of you special and unique. The people who create these tests and score them do not know each of you... the way your teachers do, the way I hope to, and certainly not the way your families do.

They do not know that many of you speak two languages. They do not know that you can play a musical instrument or that you can dance or paint a picture.

They do not know that your friends count on you to be there for them or that your laughter can brighten the dreariest day. They do not know that you write poetry or songs, play or participate in sports, wonder about the future, or that sometimes you take care of your little brother or sister after school.

They do not know that you have travelled to a really neat place or that you know how to tell a great story or that you really love spending time with special family members and friends.

They do not know that you can be trustworthy, kind or thoughtful, and that you try, every day, to be your very best... the scores you get will tell you something, but they will not tell you everything.

So enjoy your results and be very proud of these but remember there are many ways of being smart.”

Imagine what a positive effect that letter had on the self-esteem, level of motivation and the happiness of the children who received it.

How would your working and personal relationships with your partner, friends, family, team, clients or employees be transformed if you adapted this idea and created messages as thoughtful, encouraging and uplifting as this with their Christmas card or Christmas bonus?

What if you adapted this idea for other occasions such as birthdays, appraisals, the end of a project, the beginnings of work meetings and wedding anniversaries?

In fact, why wait for a special occasion? How about just being less generous with fault-finding and narrow measures of success and more generous with positive feedback and appreciation?

Let’s play an even bigger part in making the world a warmer, more loving, more appreciative, uplifting, more confident and abundant place to live and work. A place where we bring out the best in people so they don’t feel they have to resort to violence, anger and other negatives ways of getting noticed and getting their other needs met.

What’s your next step towards creating the personal life, business or career you really want?

Discover some more choices below.

‘Madeleine Morgan Life, Career and Business Coaching, Cambridge UK

Warm wishes, Madeleine

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  • “Christmas is the spirit of giving without a thought of getting. It is happiness because we see joy in people. It is forgetting self and finding time for others. It is discarding the meaningless and stressing the true values.” Thomas S Monson

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How to Achieve Your Goals: Confidence Tip 141

Life and Business Coaching for Managers7 Top Tips for Achieving Any Personal Goal, Career Goal or Business Goal

Many people I talk to can’t believe how quickly this year has flown by.

When I ask them how they feel about that, the ones I’ve been working with say they’re amazed and proud of what they’ve managed to achieve in their personal, career or business lives.

Some of the ones I haven’t been working with feel disappointed, stressed frustrated or worried because:

  • They’re still scrambling on the hamster wheel of life
  • Or this year they’ve been stuck in the same old rut
  • Or things look like they’ve changed for the worse
  • Or they heard the crash of their broken New Year Resolutions in the first few weeks of the year
  • Or…?

Maybe you can relate to one of those situations ?
So why is it so difficult for us to make that new personal, career or business life happen and how can we make sure that our lives are more rewarding next year?

In the next 3 success tips, I’m going to share with you 7 obstacles that might have got in your way this year and 7 secrets to overcoming them next year.

It’s difficult to create a better year in your personal, career and business life if:

  1. You don’t have SMARTER goals

Goals give your life energy, clarity, direction and power.
“The New Year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.” Melody Beattie

Your goals have more power when they are written down and they are:

S = Specific – Say what you want and avoid saying what you don’t want. It’s strange but true that your mind is wired to help you get what you want.

If you say what you don’t want, it gets you that too, because it doesn’t understand ‘not’.

I’ll prove it to you. Notice what comes into your mind when I say, ‘Don’t think of a pair of sunglasses!’

I bet you got a picture in your mind of sunglasses or something like it

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