Building Self Confidence Blog
19Jun/140

How to Break Out of Analysis Paralysis: Confidence Tips #71

Building Self Confidence Life Coaching Cambridge Have you ever driven yourself crazy trying to make a personal, career or business decision?

Relax…analysis paralysis is an age-old problem. Even Aesop had something to say about it in his story of the Fox and the Cat.

The fox boasts that he has hundreds of ways of escaping from the hounds while the cat has only one. When they hear the hounds approaching, the cat scrambles up a tree to safety while the fox is so confused by all his choices he is paralysed into inaction and gets caught by the hounds.

If you’re experiencing analysis paralysis right now, what could be some of the reasons? Here are some of the things my clients have realised. Perhaps you can relate to them? You’ve:

  • been trying to juggle too much information in your head
  • listed the pros and cons and they’ve come out fairly evenly – whatever you decide, you’re going to lose something important and gain something important to you
  • got a fear that you’ll make the wrong choice and end up in big trouble
  • had bad experiences with making impulsive choices, or even considered ones, and you don’t trust your judgement any more
  • consulted friends, colleagues and family and they have so many conflicting opinions, or demands, that you’ve become thoroughly confused
  • got to find out more about what you really want before you can make a decision
  • not got the right decision making processes

The trouble is, as the fox found out, not making a decision can be just as dangerous and making one.

So, how can we regain our sense of steadiness, decisiveness and confidence when we need to make a big decision?

Here are 7 ideas for overcoming analysis paralysis my clients have found useful:

  1. Write down your thoughts – they are easier to deal with when they’re on paper
  2. Sort out if your fears are related to a pattern you have of catastrophising or whether there is some good reason for caution
  3. If it’s a pattern, talk to someone skilled (like a Life Coach :)) who can help you break the catastrophising pattern, clear the negative effects of any past bad decisions and help you build your confidence
  4. Talk through your options with someone who is skilled at being objective and can help you get clarity about your best choices (like a Life Coach :) )
  5. Every decision has some risk attached to it so work out plan B and
  6. Build skills that allow you to face any challenge resourcefully
  7. Make decisions at the right level. For instance, sometimes you can’t know what to DO because you need to know what’s really IMPORTANT TO YOU first

Have a Difficult Decision to Make and Want to Discover more? Try this:

1-2-1 Complimentary ‘Make a Big Decision’ Coaching Discovery Session

If you could confidently change one thing in your personal, career or business life, what would it be? I have 2 complimentary spaces for 1-2-1 Discovery Sessions this month. During that session, we’ll discuss where you are in your business, career or personal life. We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success. We’ll get clear on how you’d like your life to be. Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and certain about your next steps.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me:madeleine@growu.co.uk

"I recently had a discovery session with Madeleine, and I was blown away by how valuable it was. The questions she asked not only helped me get clear on what I truly wanted to create in my life but also how I could easily do it. Having been coached by many people in my 8 years of business I can honestly say that Madeleine is an amazing coach and truly brilliant at what she does. If you get a chance to have a Discovery Session with her I would jump at it because you’ll get so much out of the session – I know I did. Thanks Madeleine." Melina Abbott

Madeleine Morgan Life Coach and Confidence Coach CambridgeWarm wishes

Madeleine 

P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

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Quote of the Week

Whenever you see a successful business, someone once made a courageous decision.” Peter F Drucker

“Don't even leap to actions and decisions before you've found that sense of natural calm, well-being, or enthusiasm.” Frederick Dodson

12Jun/140

Eat that frog – right? Wrong! Top Tips to Stop Yourself Procrastinating

Success for ManagersDo you ever procrastinate over doing important things and then kick yourself for doing it, knowing that you've lost an opportunity to make your life, your career, your business better in some way? If so, you'll like this week's tip.

One famous piece of time management and procrastination-busting advice is to 'Eat that frog'. In other words get the most important and unpalatable job done first. 

Sound advice but not very motivating to my mind.

Actually, I find the metaphor quite revolting. (I know the well travelled, adventurous gourmets among you will think, ‘But frog is lovely cooked. Just like chicken.’ But I can’t help thinking of the live, cold slimy variety :))

Anyway… it got me thinking....what would be a more motivating, procrastination-busting metaphor?

What if it was 'Eat that bar of Green and Black's milk chocolate' or 'eat that Byron's real veggie burger' or whatever your favourite food is?

My idea is… think of that unappetising task as an appetising one.

How would that work then?

Let's take an example. One of the things my business development and career development clients find difficult and like to put off is marketing and selling what they do. In their minds, marketing and selling activities are difficult to swallow because they associate them with 'arrogance', 'pushiness', 'aggressiveness' and 'difficulty'. They hate blowing their own trumpet.

When they change how they think about this, pretty soon they create their marketing copy, their CVs and their LinkedIn profiles and I can get on with helping them with the editing.

So what are some of the new and motivating ways they think about the task of promoting themselves? Here are 5 ideas. If they're:

  • altruistic, they focus on the task being all about letting people know they're here to help or how much their increased salary or profits will allow them to give to charity or provide opportunities for their children
  • value excellence, they tell themselves that self-promotion will allow them to invest more in their continuing professional development through coaching and training so they can be even better at what they do
  • materialistic, they focus on the increased profits or salary they'll get and all the lovely things they'll be able to buy - homes, cars etc
  • motivated by guilt, they associate not promoting themselves with depriving people of the opportunity of working with them ...that is...someone who can really help them and who cares about them
  • fun loving, they think about how much fun they can have with the extra profits or salary...such as holidays and other experiences

You get the picture...it's all about understanding what motivates you…and keep the end in mind.

Your mission, today, should you choose to accept, is to transform your thinking about a task that is important and that you've been procrastinating about into a task you feel really motivated to do. Stop trying to eat that frog and start eating that...?

I’d love to know how you get on and if you have other ways you stop yourself procrastinating. Feel free to leave a comment in the comment box below.

Want to discover more?

1-2-1 Complimentary Coaching Discovery Session

If you could stop procrastinating and change one thing in your personal, career or business life, what would it be? I have 2 complimentary spaces for 1-2-1 Discovery Sessions this month. During that session, we’ll discuss where you are in your business, career or personal life. We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success. We’ll get clear on how you’d like your life to be. Then I’ll show you how you can stop procrastinating and bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and certain about your next steps.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me:madeleine@growu.co.uk

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership Mentor, Cambridge UKWarm wishes

Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

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Quote of the Week

‘You may delay but time will not.’ Benjamin Franklin

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5Jun/140

Do the Mice Play When the Cat’s Away? Confidence Tips #69

Success for ManagersDo you ever feel frustrated by colleagues, friends, family members or people working in your business who don’t do what they ought to do… unless you’re standing over them?

Do they sometimes give you lame excuses when you take them to task? Or do you avoid bringing up the issue for fear of confrontation?

If your answer to any of these question is ‘yes’, here are 3 tips to help you influence people to be more responsible, reliable and accountable:

1. Make sure that you do what you are responsible for and what you commit to. Nothing breaks team and family morale, loyalty, commitment and trust quicker than when you have a ‘Do as I say, not as I do’ approach.

2. Make sure they understand what you’ve asked them to do or what you expect. Sometimes my clients say they fear appearing patronising if they ask people to repeat back what they’ve just said. One suggestion my clients have found works is to say something like this: ‘Just so that I check that I’ve communicated clearly, would you tell me what you understand you need to do.’

3. Make sure they have everything they need to succeed. (You could even ask them what they need to succeed.)

For instance:

  • If you know they find it hard to say ‘No’, get easily distracted or tend to over-commit, check with them when they are going to be able to do what you ask.
  • Ensure they have the skills to do what you want them to do – people tend to avoid things they’re not sure they’ll succeed at and procrastinate over things they think are going to be difficult.
  • Above all, make sure they know why it’s important for them and for you – they’re more likely to give it a high priority when they know

So your mission today, should you accept, is to take the first action on the list that you haven’t tried yet. :)

Want to discover more? Try this:

1. Check this out: The Successful Manager’s Toolkit Workshop Thursday 12th June, 9.00 – 4.30, Cambridge (only 4 places left). For more details, click here.

2. 1-2-1 Complimentary Coaching Discovery Session

If you could change one thing in your personal, career or business life, what would it be? I have 4 complimentary spaces for 1-2-1 Discovery Sessions this month. During that session, we’ll discuss where you are in your business, career or personal life. We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success. We’ll get clear on how you’d like your life to be. Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and certain about your next steps.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me: madeleine@growu.co.uk

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership Mentor, Cambridge UKWarm wishes

Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

Useful Links

Quotes of the Week

“Each day you are leading by example. Whether you realize it or not or whether it's positive or negative, you are influencing those around you.” Rob Liano

   
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