Building Self Confidence Blog
28May/140

Is it Witchcraft? Confidence Tips #68

Success for ManagersRecently, I was coaching a group of triathletes and long distance swimmers who had set some pretty ambitious goals.

One of them will be swimming the Irish Sea between the UK and Ireland (The North Channel) this summer. He’ll be dealing with the cold, jelly fish and the sheer mental and physical challenge of swimming 22 miles, non-stop.

You can probably imagine, this group were really keen to learn how to achieve their goals in the most powerful and effective ways. So I was sharing with them sports psychology tips that Olympic athletes use and that would help them improve their physical and emotional strength, speed and stamina.

Some of them were tips I’ve used to walk pathways of burning coals without getting burnt.

In truth, they were tips that people can use in any walk of life, to give them the confidence, determination and power to achieve any goal.

Swimmer Free photoIt was after they had done an exercise that proved to them that certain thoughts made them physically weaker and other thoughts literally made them stronger that they were stunned and then someone said, ‘It’s like witchcraft!’

This stuff is so familiar to me that I was taken aback by his comment, for a second. Then I said, ‘I know it might seem that way but actually I’m just showing you the power of your mind to help or hinder you in all that you do. That power has been there all along. Everyone has it. It’s just that not everyone knows how to use it to their advantage. So many people achieve less, and enjoy life less, than they could because they don’t know this stuff. ”

Your action for this week

  • Identify the beliefs and thoughts that weaken you and hold you back.
  • Write down a belief or thought that could strengthen you, if you believed it and thought it regularly.
  • Find evidence that it’s true. Think it often and say it to yourself in a powerful voice!

Would you like some help with this and learn some more ‘witchcraft’?

I know that making the first step is often the hardest so here are a few options to help you make taking that first step easier. They are all free and without obligation…

  • Drop me an email – madeleine@growu.co.uk
  • Have a quick 20 minute chat on the phone to discuss the issue – 01223 426392
  • Meet me face-to-face for a 30 minute chat to get some ideas

Why free? ‘What’s the catch?’ I hear you ask. I know from my 15 years’ experience of running a coaching business that a lot of people find this so useful that they go on to enjoy my coaching and training programmes after they’ve made this first step.

What will happen if you continue to put up with thoughts that stop you enjoying life and achieving your goals?

Get in touch today!

Special Event

newsletter imageIf you’re a manager or owner manager, would you like to learn how to use these mindset tools I’ve mentioned today to empower yourself and your team? If your answer is ‘Yes!’ check this out:Successful Manager’s Toolkit Workshop Thursday 12th June, 9.00 – 4.30, Cambridge. For more details, click the link below.

http://www.successformanagers.co.uk/management-training-programme-in-cambridge-uk/

“Having recently participated in a “Leadership/Training Management” day with my company I found that Madeleine’s professional, positive and practical approach eased us all into lively discussions and problem solving scenarios. The day was packed with useful tips and ideas based around developing leadership and communication skills, I’m now very much looking forward to putting my new found tools into practice!”
Susanne Bain, Office Manager, GW Pharmaceuticals

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership Mentor, Cambridge UKWarm wishes

Madeleine

 

P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

 

Useful Links

Quotes of the Week

“Contrary to popular opinion, leadership is not a reserved position for a particular group of people who were elected or appointed, ordained or enthroned. Leadership is self-made, self-retained, self-inculcated and then exposed through a faithful, sincere and exemplary life.”  Israelmore Avivor

“If you can’t swallow your pride, you can’t lead. Even the highest mountain has animals that step on it.” Jack Weatherford

 

 

21May/140

How to Grow Your Power: Confidence Tip 67

Success for ManagersDo you ever have moments when you feel overwhelmed, frustrated or powerless because there’s so much wrong with the world or your partner, your boss, your team, your family, your neighbours, your clients, the politicians…? Do you find yourself yelling at the TV, telling ‘them’ how to put the world to rights?

Then I’ve got 7 ways you can develop your ‘personal power’ and feel you’re in charge of your life, your career or your business this week.

In moments like that, it’s important to remind yourself of the ‘personal power’ you have to influence events and manage your mindset, even if you haven’t got a powerful title or position.

  1. Get clear about what you really want – you are most powerful when you are focussed on what you want. You are most powerless when you focus on what you don’t want – it’s like trying to drive forward while looking in the rear-view mirror…all the time.
  2. Choose a priority – this helps you avoid the powerlessness of overwhelm. You can’t fix the whole world straight away. :)
  3. Only then are you ready to explore your options for making what you want to happen.
  4. Make sure you have the skill to make your actions effective… avoid self-sabotage.
  5. Take your first positive step towards a powerful change – let action kill any doubts. For instance, clarify expectations with a colleague or family member who disappointed you or who you feel is underperforming.
  6. Notice what’s right with you, the other person, your situation or the world. Express this in some way e.g. by writing it down or telling someone. This puts you in a more energetic and positive mindset to tackle the rest. Recently, I helped a client write his Linkedin profile and he said it helped him remember his strengths and build his confidence.
  7. Join with like-minded people, a mentor or coach to make things happen faster

So your mission today, should you accept, is to take the first action on the list that you haven’t tried yet. :)

Want to discover more? Try this:

Want to discover how to become a powerful leader and manager?

Check this out: The Successful Manager’s Toolkit Workshop Thursday 12th June, 9.00 – 4.30, Cambridge

http://www.successformanagers.co.uk/management-training-programme-in-cambridge-uk/

  “I have worked for successful multi-nationals who have built their international reputations based on the training they provide their staff and Madeleine's training skills were of the quality I expected when I worked there. Excellent Job! 🙂 So you will have no surprise when I say that I would not hesitate to recommend Madeleine for any training opportunity." Karen Woodbridge HR specialist at Hornet Solutions

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership Mentor, Cambridge UKWarm wishes

Madeleine

 P.S. Check out the special events, Quote of the Week and ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Useful Links

 Events

1-2-1 Complimentary Coaching Discovery Session

If you had the power to change one thing in your personal, career or business life, what would it be? I have 2 complimentary spaces for 1-2-1 Discovery Sessions this month. During that session, we’ll discuss where you are in your business, career or personal life. We’ll uncover hidden barriers to your success. We’ll get clear on how you’d like your life to be. Then I’ll show you how you can bridge that gap. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and certain about your next steps.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me:madeleine@growu.co.uk

Related Posts

How to Deal with Unreliable People

Quotes of the Week

“I met an old lady once, almost a hundred years old, and she told me, 'There are only two questions that human beings have ever fought over, all through history. How much do you love me? And who's in charge?” Elizabeth Gilbert, novelist

“Power resides only where men believe it resides.” George R.R. Martin, A Clash of Kings

“This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.” Susan Polis Schultz

14May/140

How to Deal with Unreliable People: Confidence Tips #66

Success for ManagersIt can be really frustrating dealing with a manager, colleague, client, family member or friend who is unreliable, can’t it? Does it sometimes feel like a thankless task when you are the reliable one? Have you ever kicked yourself for being the unreliable one? Maybe someone else has accused you of being unreliable? If so, you’ll find this week’s tip helpful.

There’s a lot to being a reliable person.

It takes more than just being a ‘nice’ person to be reliable in your working and personal relationships.

So how do you spot unreliable behaviour in yourself and others? Here are some signs and symptoms I hear my clients complaining about that destroy working and personal relationships, career prospects, families and businesses…some of them might surprise you.

Unreliable people:

  1. Cynically minimize difficulties when they want to land you with a difficult project
  2. Reject constructive feedback.
  3. Hold others accountable but let themselves off the hook.
  4. Don’t stand up for others when they should
  5. Make promises but don’t deliver
  6. Are easily angered or fearful
  7. And many more…

5 Ways to You Can Deal with Unreliable People to Ensure Your Personal and Work Success

  1. Make sure you’re a good role model for reliability – it’s impossible to influence others to do the reliable thing if you’re standing in a glass house and throwing stones.
  2. Establish what the cause of their/your unreliability is. For instance, is it a lack of maturity, skill, experience, altruism, character or…
  3. Once you’ve identified the cause, do whatever is in your power to constructively deal with the cause. For instance, if it’s a lack of skill, what training can you provide?
  4. If you feel you don’t have ‘positional power’ to deal with the person because the unreliable person is your boss, for instance, develop your ‘personal power’ and influence to help you change the situation.
  5. As a last resort, and if it fits the situation, constructively manage yourself or them out of the work or personal relationship and keep the useful learning you’ve got from dealing with them.

Would you like some help with this?

I know that making the first step is often the hardest so here are a few of options to help you make taking that first step easier. They are all free and without obligation

  • Drop me an email – madeleine@growu.co.uk
  • Have a quick 20 minute chat on the phone to discuss the issue
  • Meet me face-to-face for a 20 minute chat to get some ideas

Why free? What’s the catch, I hear you ask. I know from my 15 years experience of running a coaching business that a lot of people find this so useful that they go on to enjoy my coaching and training programmes after they’ve made this first step.

What will happen if you continue to put up with the frustration of unreliable people?

Get in touch today!

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership MentorWarm wishes

Madeleine

 P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, Events and ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ below.

Useful Links

 Events

Successful Manager’s Toolkit Workshop Thursday 12th June, 9.00 – 4.30, Cambridge

http://www.successformanagers.co.uk/successful-managers-tool-kit/

“Having recently participated in a “Leadership/Training Management” day with my company I found that Madeleine’s professional, positive and practical approach eased us all into lively discussions and problem solving scenarios. The day was packed with useful tips and ideas based around developing leadership and communication skills, I’m now very much looking forward to putting my new found tools into practice!”
Susanne Bain, Office Manager, GW Pharmaceuticals

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Hostile, Helpless or Helpful?

Quote of the Week

“A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him.” Aesop

6May/140

Hostile, Helpless or Helpful? Confidence Tips #65

Success for ManagersIn this week’s tip we talk about how to stop and transform hostile or helpless reactions into helpful ones.

When problems and frustrations arise in your personal or working life, is your reaction:

  1. Hostile – critical, angry, cynical, blaming, indignant, interrogating?
  2. Helpless – disengaged, depressed, hopeless, withdrawn?
  3. Helpful – respectful, co-operative, confident, resilient, encouraging?

What about the reactions of the people in your work or personal life who are most important to you?

I guess you’d probably say, “It depends” or “a mixture”.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could stop the stress-filled hostile and helpless reactions?

Here are 3 ideas to help you always react in the helpful way and influence others to do that too:

1. Put a ‘stop loss’ order on your stresses.

The idea comes from financial investing. When investors buy shares they give themselves peace of mind by putting a stop loss order on them. Then, if the shares drop to a certain value they are automatically sold before a bigger loss happens.

How could you apply this? Well, you might, calmly, tell a friend, family member or colleague who is perpetually late for meetings that you’ll put a ‘stop loss’ on your time of ten minutes. That’s the most time you’ll spend waiting for them.

Another way is to look for the positive learning in a negative experience. This stops you experiencing the double loss – the negative experience and the negative stress about it.

2. Discover how you can use stress-dampening, stress training, stress proofing and stress prevention to manage your stress and the stress of others in this workshop:

 Stress Management for Managers Thursday 15th May, 8.45 – 12.45, Cambridge.

Book soon to grab the early bird rate.
http://www.successformanagers.co.uk/stress-management-for-managers-workshop/

“I found the seminar very helpful. A good explanation of every aspect with answers and advice tailored to specific and individual circumstances. I now have a greater perspective on how we can improve on productivity and reduce the issues by tackling stress in the office.” Lee Green, Manager, Kloeber

 3. If you’d prefer a 1-2-1 approach, I’m offering a free From Stress to Success Discovery Session. I have only 4 slots available. We’ll discuss your stress levels in your business, career or personal life. We’ll uncover hidden barriers to eliminating stress. We’ll get clear on how you can manage or elimate your stress. You’ll go away feeling positive, excited and certain about your next steps.

If you would like to apply for a session, just email me: madeleine@growu.co.uk

Madeleine Morgan Executive Coach and Leadership MentorWarm wishes

Madeleine

P.S. Check out the Quote of the Week, ‘Useful Links’ to life changing free ‘stuff’ and ‘Special Events’ listed below.

 

Useful Links

Special Events:

Successful Manager’s Toolkit Thursday 12th June, 9.00 – 4.30, Cambridge
http://www.successformanagers.co.uk/successful-managers-tool-kit/

Quote of the Week

‘It’s not stress that kills us. It’s our reaction to it.’ Hans Selye

   
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